When I was around mid-30s, I was working with a lovely lady who was menopausal. She was suffering with hot flushes, mood swings and lack of motivation. I remember once when I tried to cheer her up, jokingly saying she was a misery, she looked at me seriously and said, “You’ll know when it hits you just how I feel.” I didn’t take any notice.
She knew what she was talking about. Perhaps my perimenopause was so rotten as a punishment for me not being more sympathetic!
So how about where you’re working right now? Are there women of peri- or menopausal age? With your knowledge, have you noticed how they seem? Do they appear to be holding it together? Do you see them disappear occasionally?
Are their reactions the same as before? You know the signs; impatience, irritability, fanning themselves, seeming anxious, weepy perhaps.
All I’m saying really is to look out for your colleagues at work. Imagine if your receptionist was having a rough time of it, and she had to be smiley, chatty and welcoming? Perhaps she’d appreciate regular water if she’s unable to get it herself, being tied to the front desk.
Please look around at your fellow workmates and see if they need your support. The small gesture of offering to take their calls while they go outside to cool off could be just what they need to make it through the rest of the day. Or perhaps they need a listening ear to explain how they’re feeling.
You may have been there yourself and completely get it, and thus be able to support someone from a place of deep knowing!
Be there for your colleagues, and, for that matter, other women in your life who look as though they could do with a hug.
I’m not a qualified clinician, dietician, or psychologist, or anything! I write based only on my own experiences, personal views, and research into menopause, and the fact that I want to help women. Please always seek the advice of a professional. Jacky Wood