Thinking back post-menopause – did I really need to fit in?

At junior school, I wanted to fit in. I remember when I was about 12, I was in the girls’ toilets backcombing my hair and putting on a bit of lippy, to fit in with the older, pretty girls. I always thought they were prettier, better dressed (even though we had the same uniform), had more boys, and so on. And I simply felt unattractive, so my journey of ‘fitting in’ began very early on.

So why do we need to conform? And as far as I can see, nothing’s changed.  If anything, evidence suggests it’s a worse situation than ever.

It takes us away from who we really are and is exhausting. Hopefully, we get to a point when it doesn’t matter to us, but by that time, conforming, needing to fit in, being untrue to ourselves, may have become a habit, hard to break, and oftentimes, obscured from our awareness. We may just be aware of feeling unhappy.

When my menopause came along, it made me feel worse about myself.  I hadn’t yet reached the point of being more concerned with my own happiness and less about what I perceived others thought of me.

I felt more self-conscious, old, dirty due to perspiring most of the day, tired, useless, anxious, afraid, losing confidence daily.

My self-perception was destructive to my spirit.  I felt affected by everything, even global situations. 

I was 47 when I admitted I was menopausal and recognised I needed to change my outlook, but if I’d been better educated about it, my life would have been far more tolerable! If only I had realised I was beautiful and unique, just like every single one of us is.

There is such benefit from knowledge.  Even the wonderful Tropic personal and skincare products I now use are contributing to my well being, lessening the likelihood of burdening myself with harmful toxins, the fragrances pleasuring my senses, their positive effects visible.

Ladies, you’re important, so valuable, not only to your family and friends, but also to yourself!  Don’t let unawareness hold you back.  Spend time learning about, caring for, and being kind to yourself.  Your journey from this day forward will become easier than your yesterdays.

You’re so very worth taking care of ❤️

I’m not a qualified clinician, dietician, or psychologist, or anything! I write based only on my own experiences, personal views, and research into menopause. Please always seek the advice of a professional. Jacky Wood

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